The Case for Community

For many years I have prayed for a best friend. I have had many close friends over the years, but because I have issues of trust and struggle with relationships, I have always felt that I didn’t fully connect with many of my friends over the years.

In the last 6-10 months, God answered my prayers. But not in the way I would have imagined or planned for myself. I had the honor of becoming best friends with the wife of my husband’s best friend – but not in person, through text messaging about our husbands (LOL).

In addition, I met a few of my other besties online – through The Influence Network. Like me, they are women who seek to deepen a relationship with God and to make Him known in every area of their lives.

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{My crazy friends. Love them!}

Most of my close/best friends do not live near me. Several I have never met in person. Awkward? Maybe. But am I blessed? You have no idea.

These friends are women I trust with my life. My deepest secrets. They are people I can vent to, who build me up and correct me when I am wrong. Like I stated earlier, one of my best friends is married to my husband’s best friend. We share life together and are bound together by a calling so big it scares us and excited us both tremendously!

Why are intimate friendships & community necessary? I believe Hebrews 10 states it perfectly – that we are blessed when others come to us with a need. It blesses us. And it propels us towards good work, towards helping others for His glory.

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{Another gem from the She Reads Truth study in Nehemiah}

Getting into relationships like this is not apart of a magic formula. You cannot sit around and wait for people to come to you. You must be vulnerable, reach out and connect with others, whether online or in your local community.

Reach out online. Set up coffee dates with people from your church or from your workplace. It is awkward at first, but is so worth it in the end. It took me many years to get here – and it has taken work on my part. (And I am still a work in progress!)

And don’t be surprised if friendships change over the years. People grow and seasons change, and people may come into and out of your life. Be blessed in the now and thankful for friends past, present and those to come.

Do you struggle with building friendships? What are some ways you can reach out to build new/deeper relationships??

Be blessed,

Comments

  1. Dr. Linda Ford says:

    I love your vulnerability and your wisdom! You are a woman Blessed..Prov. 31. Hugs/Dr. Fo.

  2. lilyandlight says:

    girl you have been an amazing friend to me! it’s crazy to think we only met a few months back, through tweets of all things, and now we can open up and share deep details with one another. i am blessed by your faithfulness, your undying appreciation for the power of a good old emoticon, and your fellowship as a sister in Christ.

    i am beyond thrilled for Influence Conference!!!

  3. Amen! Depending on personality relationships can be hard to build but they are so worth it. They are a gift from God, and something he calls us to be a part of! I just wrote something about biblical community and how important it is! thanks for sharing! (btw…not sure how I got here, but glad I did!)

  4. Love you friend! It as been a blessing to build our friendship–even if it exists in text message land. 🙂 Eventually, we will be in Phoenix…and then I don’t know what Brad and Dan will do with us!

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